The Groom's Guide to Wedding Planning...
days of the groom being responsible for the rehearsal dinner and
showing up on time for the wedding are long gone by. Today, most
grooms take their role as a "partner" in the wedding and marriage
seriously. The bride and groom work together to make a good
marriage-it starts with working together in planning the wedding.
become more involved, traditional wedding duties are changing.
Beginning with the engagement announcement, more newspapers feature
photographs of the couple instead of the traditional bride-to-be.
newlyweds today not only both work full-time but they share
housekeeping duties as well. Because of this, the groom is being
included in many bridal showers. Theme showers that include interests
of both the bride and groom have become very popular. Be sure to
invite his male relatives and friends.
groom is also becoming more involved in the financial aspects of the
wedding. With couples marrying at an older age, many are paying for
their own wedding or contribute toward the parents' wedding expenses.
the wedding the groom may take on the responsibility of writing thank
you notes to his family and friends. The bride will send thank you
notes to her family and friends.
may think that the fuss surrounding the wedding is silly, but what you
don't realize is that the way you do things as a couple between now
and "I do" can set patterns of communication that will grow over the
course of your marriage.
role in the wedding is almost always smaller than the bride's, yet you
need to participate as much as possible in every phase of the wedding
planning. Getting married is a public affirmation of commitment
between a man and woman. Weddings are a mix of religion, legal issues,
family issues, and the transition from living as a bachelor to living
together as a team. As you plan the wedding with your bride, you learn
a lot not only about yourself but about her and her family.
you realize the enormous value of taking an active role, you need to
develop a strategy to accomplish dozens of goals. What am I supposed
to pay for? How do I deal with my in laws? My single friends? My
clergyman? There is a long list of things that you are supposed to
have to buy an engagement and wedding ring; draw up the guest lists
for yourself and your family, plan the honeymoon; find a best man and
ushers; pay for a variety of wedding expenses and so on. You will be
seen in a better light by your bride if you cheerfully surprise them
by fulfilling your role before being asked. Remember the man who is
always prepared and knows what to do generates a larger than life
mystique, and your fiancée and her family will rightly believe that
they can depend on you. Above all else, keep your sense of humor.
Although today many grooms participate in much of the planning, some
men still do not enjoy this level of involvement. In these instances,
brides usually have little problem finding relatives and close friends
who happily get involved in the wedding planning.